20 September 2012

Did You Know...

...I make my own deodorant? I do. And I have for over 10 years. My eldest laughs and calls me The Mountain Woman.  Why do I? Because I noticed years ago it became increasingly harder to find deodorant for women. Only antiperspirant or a combo of the two.

I recall reading somewhere the inorganic substances found in antiperspirant contained carcinogens...

...and I must protect the girls.

So, I make my own. Nobody has complained, so I presume it works.

I don't wear make-up. Why? Because I read somewhere make-up, especially lipstick, is made from insects, fish scales and pig fat, to name a few pleasant ingredients... and since it's so close to my mouth...

I decided *Blech*

- plus, make-up feels gross on my skin. I choose to not wear it. Which is my right.

I rarely take pharmaceuticals, unless I have an infection or am in a great deal of pain - then I only take what's prescribed (antibiotic) or enough to cope (one or two pain pills, tops). I've never taken illegal drugs, or smoke pot.

...I prefer wine.

Why? Because I don't like putting stuff in my body I don't know what the adverse effects are. It's my right. It's how I choose to live.

I'm not pushing my home-made deodorant on anyone. I don't laugh at people who wear insects and fish scales on their lips. I don't scoff at you for what you choose to put in your body. I figure it's none of my business.

...besides, I'm really *that* apathetic.

I find myself being inundated with posters and people and propaganda regarding this years flu vaccine. Everyone and their precious dog is up in arms that EVERYONE needs to get the flu shot. Why? Because, IMHO, like religion, it's this generation's version of the Emperor's New Clothes. Everybody does it, therefore, you SHOULD TOO. It's good for you. It's irrational to not want it. It keeps everyone safe. It's the best thing since sliced turkey.

...and if you find it not 100% satisfactory.

If you agree with the last five statements, stop reading now. You've already taken on the herd mentality and hate me for not being sensible and trying to keep EVERYONE ELSE (tm) safe.

If you're on the fence about the flu shot, let me give you some fodder for thought:

Some Q&As from the CDC:

Can I get the flu even though I got a flu vaccine this year?
Yes. The ability of flu vaccine to protect a person depends on two things: 1) the age and health status of the person getting vaccinated, and 2) the similarity or “match” between the virus strains in the vaccine and those circulating in the community.  If the viruses in the vaccine and the influenza viruses circulating in the community are closely matched, vaccine effectiveness is higher.  If they are not closely matched, vaccine effectiveness is reduced.
Don't I fee ridiculous?

Will This Season's Vaccine Be a Good Match for Circulating Viruses?

It's not possible to predict with certainty which flu viruses will predominate during a given season.  Flu viruses are constantly changing (called “antigenic drift”) – they can change from one season to the next or they can even change within the course of one flu season.  Experts must pick which viruses to include in the vaccine many months in advance in order for vaccine to be produced and delivered on time.  Because of these factors, there is always the possibility of mismatch between circulating viruses and the viruses in the vaccine.

Heads, I win; tails, you lose.
Who is at high risk for developing flu-related complications?
·         Children younger than 5, but especially children younger than 2 years old (children under 6 months should not receive the vaccination)
·         Adults 65 years of age and older

·         Pregnant women
·         People who have medical conditions including:
o    Asthma (even if it’s controlled or mild)
o    Neurological and neurodevelopmental conditions [including disorders of the brain, spinal cord, peripheral nerve, and muscle such as cerebral palsy, epilepsy (seizure disorders), stroke, intellectual disability (mental retardation), moderate to severe developmental delay, muscular dystrophy, or spinal cord injury]
o    Chronic lung disease (such as chronic obstructive pulmonary disease [COPD] and cystic fibrosis)
o    Heart disease (such as congenital heart disease, congestive heart failure and coronary artery disease)
o    Blood disorders (such as sickle cell disease)
o    Endocrine disorders (such as diabetes mellitus)
o    Kidney disorders
o    Liver disorders
o    Metabolic disorders (such as inherited metabolic disorders and mitochondrial disorders)
o    Weakened immune system due to disease or medication (such as people with HIV or AIDS, or cancer, or those on chronic steroids)
o    People younger than 19 years of age who are receiving long-term aspirin therapy

Hrm... I just checked. Yep! None of the above.

Ask your doctor if the side effects are right for you...

Here are some interesting facts the handy-dandy handouts won't be mentioning, but I read them somewhere:

The influenza vaccine should not be recommended for all people.  This is because influenza infection is generally not serious...  However, certain groups of people who are at increased risk of complications should be vaccinated to prevent death and/or hospitalization.  This group includes all people over age 65, all people who live or work in homes for the elderly or chronically ill, all individuals with chronic cardiac or respiratory illnesses (such as asthma) and all individuals with chronic medical disorders. 

yeah, yeah, yeah... you already said that.
Even if you get the flu shot you may still get the flu. The viruses that cause influenza change rapidly and flu vaccines are developed each year to protect people from the strains expected to be most prevalent.

The flu vaccine contains mercury from thimerosal, a preservative added to prevent bacterial contamination.  Mercury is toxic to the brain, nerve cells, arterial linings and has been linked to an increase in the risk of Alzheimer’s disease, dementia, memory loss, depression, anxiety, ADD, heart disease, hypertension and birth defects.

...and yet, it's "recommended" for 65+ adults and pregnant women...

According to the world's leading immunogeneticist, Dr. Hugh Fudenberg, if an individual has had five consecutive flu shots, his or her chances of getting Alzheimer's disease is 10 times higher than if they had one, two or no shots. This is seemingly related to the gradual accumulation of mercury in the brain which has been found to cause cognitive dysfunction.

The good news is, you won't die of the flu. The bad news is...um...
Wait, what was I saying?

Elderly individuals who receive the flu shot are more likely to be diagnosed with dementia or stroke.

Come on, Mom! It'll be fun!
As with any drug or vaccine, there is a possibility that allergic reactions, more serious reactions or even death may occur after receiving the injection.

*shrug* But, you guarantee I won't get the flue, right?!? DOH!!
If everyone else gets the flu shot and you choose to not, you're no threat to them - they're immunized! Then, what's their issue? Why are they shaking their heads, calling you irrational or irresponsible? 

I'm my short, little, pathetic life I've found, like The Emperor's New Religion(tm), if you don't follow the herd; if you step aside the social norm, you incite people. It's not because they truly believe they're making you be a better or more responsible person. It's because you're questioning their reasoning or belief system. More than likely they have no idea why they're [fill in the blanks] other than it's what someone said they SHOULD do, and they DO do, because they don't want to be different. They fear different, and they destroy different. It's human nature. 

When you say "No" - regardless of how many good reasons you have, how much research you've done and made an informed decision regarding your own pursuit of happiness - you're irrational and crazy.

Be careful who you call crazy, people. Not very long ago in our history a woman's uterus could be removed if even one man said she was hysterical (hysterectomy - the removal of hysteria), and people were committed for having dissenting opinions.

I make my own deodorant. I watch what I put in and on my skin. I choose to not get the flu shot. And, I can't for the life of me see how any of that effects your life in any way, shape or form. Please, get off my lawn.

In Joy & Enjoy 

03 March 2012

Lonely People

I don't know how to begin this post.  It's a touchy subject - loneliness, and very subjective at that. I've been sitting here, staring at my screen ... searching for the appropriate words to describe my feelings.

You can live with someone for over a decade and be lonely almost every day of it...4748 days, each filled with hours of abject loneliness:
no kind words
all actions and decisions derided/overruled
being considered the worst possible version of yourself by the one person who's supposed to love you for better or worse.
Harshest of all, your unsaid words fall upon deaf ears; all communication is lost.

The irony - The person you lived with may have been exceedingly comfortable in the life they forged with you:
dinner on the table
kids and money managed
laundry washed, folded and put away
house clean and presentable for company
the choice to come and go as they please, with whomever they wish
And no one to question their authority...

Their life was really quite nice, I imagine.
I can see why it turned upside-down when Plain Little Mack had the audacity to burp.

But, who's to say being alone is any better?

...humming an obscure, yet popular tune from Green Day, no doubt.
There's a lady at work who's a bit older than me. She says she thinks no one is content with their lives: Those who are married wish they weren't, and those who are single wish they had a partner in life.
I think she may be on to something.

I'm not alone in my loneliness, I know that... but, knowing that doesn't ease the ache.
I look around me and see loneliness seep from the pores of people around me. I hear tales of people posting on internet dating sights, checking out people at the gym, hoping to crash their cart into someone's cart in the meat aisle of the grocery store...

Everyone's lonely at some point in their lives.

And not in just a "Man, I wish I could find someone to go to the show with" lonely - A real, heart-wrenching, going-to-bed-with-a-chasm-of-an-ache-inside-your-chest lonely... knowing your heart closed up shop years ago - the last time you had the audacity to burp.

That last guy... the last guy... took a toll on your heart (and self-esteem) you're not willing to accept, and unable to not accept because anything else is just too painful. And, if you give love just one more try (tm), and it turns out like the last dozen tries, you may not recover.

This time will never be a 'this time' because you have no more 'next time's left in you.

Your cup is not only empty, it's got the calcified, chalk-like dust caked in the bottom.
Your heart, quite frankly, can't afford another 'this time'.

And yet, as lonely as you feel you are, and as much as you know you're not alone in the warehouse of lonely people...

We're all wandering around in our loneliness bubbles, unable and unwilling to reach out to our warehouse mates because the only thing worse than being hurt by love or being lonely, is being psuedo-stalked by someone who's taken an interest in you, whom you find totally outside the realm of your criteria ...even though that particular list has dwindled over the years from fourscore, non-negotiable items down to "kind, generous and mentally stable."

...for how can you claim true loneliness when someone is reaching out to you with gifts and candy?
I like being alone, for the most part. I like my select group of friends. I adore spending my time in the mountains, writing my books, drawing and other various forms of artsy-fartsy projects. I'm satisfied with my life... as I said, for the most part.

But when the lights go out and my blankets refuse to snuggle, the loneliness creeps back in from under my closed bedroom door and crawls silently into bed with me... my heart sings the sad lullaby of a sorrowful tune.

...and then, I think of how nice it is to not have those same blankets pulled over my head after he farts in bed.

In Joy & Enjoy

pass the popcorn, please!