His reply: “But, she had a face and the bod to go with it…”
Fast forward a bit to age 21. My soon-to-be-1st husband, Tom and his cronies came over to my apartment to watch the Superbowl. As I passed around the brews and chips, the guys swapped stories about this fox and that chick… animals, it seems, are all we are to them… In the middle of the laughter and stories, Tom looked at me and said to the manly crowd in a loud and determined voice: “Sandi’s not much to look at, but she’s got one hell of a personality.”
Not for the first time, nor the last, I wished I had perfected the vanishing skills I had practiced so often as a child…
Fast forward to many years later and soon-to-be-2nd ex-husband. We’re at a hail-and-farewell (Army thing) and husband can’t stop flirting/touching/ogling one very pretty Captain – one of many young ladies in his long line of ego-girlfriends. His wildly inappropriate actions are beginning to embarrass me, but I keep quiet until the ride home. I ask him if he thinks the young woman (girl) he doted over was pretty.
(I know, you shouldn’t ask the question if you don’t want to hear the answer.)
“Yes,” was his answer, “very pretty.”
“Do you think I’m pretty?”
“Well… you’re not ugly… I wouldn’t be with anyone who wasn’t at least a little pretty…”
Hit that fast forward button to just a few months ago. I’m at a conference minding my own business, grabbing a cuppa coffee at break-time, when a portly, much older gentleman approaches me and says:
“You know, I just have to tell you. I find you are a very striking woman.”
“Why, thank you. That’s very sweet.” I’m dumbstruck, but my ego-balloon starts to inflate a bit. These are words I am unaccustomed to hearing.
“Yes, very striking. I don’t know when I’ve seen such a striking woman before.”
(Becoming a little uncomfortable now, but that damned balloon is hanging on every word and growing bigger than my head at this point.)
“Thank you.” I say again, and smile politely.
“...Not beautiful by any means… but striking.”
*POP!* There goes that balloon. I wonder if anyone else heard it.
“You are beautiful no matter what they say.